Breakage Makes Room for New Growth
Throughout the loc process there can be some breakage. Correction, there WILL be breakage. I personally experienced a lot of breakage, some due to dryness, some due to stress and diet, and others due to thinning hair. At one point, I only wore my hair pinned to one side to cover a broken fuzz patch of hair concentrated in the center of my head. #notcute This particular area of my head refused to hold a loc, and remained grossly shorter than the rest of my hair for a year and a half. At the time, I was terribly frustrated and embarrassed with my fuzz patch. However, like life, things will break, and no matter how the breakage occurs, new growth is right around the corner if you endure.
There are No Shortcuts
Keep it Simple
I found as I was locking there was very little I could put in my hair that wouldn’t create a seemingly unwashable grimy residue. Shampoo in itself, would stick to my locs and create a gross grey film. Over time, I realized that very little product/oil is necessary to keep my locs looking good. I now use one water based natural leave in conditioner and coconut oil.
In life we equally have to embrace simplicity. It’s not necessary to buy into the next new thing, when what you need may be in your house already or in the grocery aisle. Additionally, every situation you encounter may very well be simpler than you’re making it. If someone wants to talk to you, they will. If you want to talk to someone, speak. If the relationship causes strife, let it go. If the relationship gives you peace, stay with it.
It takes time for your hair to actually lock. During this period, I had a lot of loose ends I had to camouflage and blend into the rest of my hair. In life, there are also a lot of loose ends we simply just have to wait to naturally come together.
Whether on your clothes or in your locs, lint is just annoying.
Don’t Fear the Process: You are a Worthy Investment
I was contemplating locing long before I made the leap of faith to start. The biggest fears that prevented me from making the commitment were cost and process. Sisterlocks are expensive to install and maintain, particularly for someone like me who never had a bi-weekly salon routine. On top of the fear of adding a ‘bill’ to my already tight budget, there was this, “nappiness” fear. I tried to envision what my hair would look like in the end, but each time was snapped back into reality KNOWING that was not how my hair would look in the beginning. Not knowing how long, I’d have to live with ‘rough' looking hair, was enough for me not to commit to locking.
In life, there are also many times of uncertainty as everyone journeys through his/her own processes, but ultimately we should never be so afraid of change, that we miss our opportunity to grow.
|Hair Credit: Tammi Gibson +Naturally Mine|
In the end, I know “I am not my hair”, but I'm glad I embraced the unknown and invested in something new.